This Sunday morning, early as yesterday, Saturday, girls' softball teams competed in the park. Two teams played today, while two teams warmed up nearby the softball field. Both were Latino teams. The girls were ten to twelve years old. Fathers coached and refereed. Mothers sat on blankets and in aluminum chairs unfolded on the grass. The sun shone in a cloudless sky. It will be warm later, but now it was but 65 degrees farenheit, perfect for strenous playing. I walked my lab around the park, throwing a ball for her to retrieve. She raced to exhaustion, retrieving five times, then ten times, then fifteen times, skidding onto the ball, scooping it into her mouth, raising a spray of water from the green grass damp from overnight sprinkling.
Woodpeckers assaulted the trunks of palms, high in the trees, rousing the crows to a clamor of protest. The crows flocked to an old pecan tree. They dived onto branches, shaking off ripe pecans. Then they flapped onto the ground, chopping at the nuts, retrieving the pecan meats.
Two runners, one who looked to be teenaged, and the other a middle aged man, jogged the perimeter of the park like boxers, sweat bands over their foreheads and tape wrapped around their hands.
At the softball field, all four of the girls' teams had black swashbuckling trousers and were distinguished by the colors of their shirts and shirt trim. Black with red trim. White with black trim. Red with black trim. Black with white trim. They shouted encouragements to each other. Alternate pitchers practiced with their coaches; their fathers? Several family dogs barked excitedly, tethered to park benches.
One test of our society, raised by Nine-Eleven, is whether we can create safe neighborhoods where we can raise brave and active daughters and sons. Both of my children were at the World Trade Center in lower Manhattan on the morning of Nine-Eleven. My son attended college with a dormitory at the Center. He was evacuated by police shortly after the North Tower was struck. The attack on Jews, which had been a published motive of the airborne Jihad, pushed him into Jewish activism. He responded by informing us that he was leaving college to go to Israel and join the IDF. Only hours of frightened pleading from his mother got him to agree to postpone this action until after he would graduate from college.
His sister lived in Brooklyn, in an apartment just off the Brooklyn Bridge, and worked in a bank in Midtown. Every morning, before going to work, she jogged over the Bridge into the World Trade Center, around the concourse, then back over the Bridge to get ready for work. So she did on the morning of Nine-Eleven, jogging around the Concourse, at seven oclock, at the same time that her brother was getting out of bed and heading for the dormitory wash room.
My daughter broke up with a boy friend of long standing on the evening of nine-ten. She explained later that she would have to take care of him, that he did not seem as if he would be of much help to her. She is a feminist, who graduated from UC Berkeley with honors in economics and women's studies. She was working her way toward a vice-presidency at her bank. She was proud of her independence.
Nine-Eleven destroyed the world in which my children could go jogging in the morning and prepare for school classes without fearing for their safety. My daughter was deeply affected by the attack on her world. Her apartment was a block from a fire station in Brooklyn that lost a half dozen of its firemen in the collapse of the Towers. For the following week, each evening, she walked to the firehouse with her neighbors. They laid flowers by the fire station, donated food, sang hymns, prayed, wept, and stood vigils to late in the night for the memory of the men who lost their lives.
What kind of a man did my independent, hard-working, achieving feminist daughter want, I asked some time later. I want, she said, a man who will rush into a burning building for me.
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